Family caregivers do remarkable work, often quietly and for years. Caring for someone you love can bring closeness and meaning. It can also wear you down, physically and emotionally. Recognizing burnout early makes it easier to change course.
Common signs of burnout
- Feeling tired all the time, even after sleep
- Getting sick more often
- Irritability, resentment or feeling numb
- Losing interest in things you used to enjoy
- Withdrawing from friends
- Trouble concentrating, or feeling that you are always behind
- Using alcohol, food or sleep aids to cope
If you recognize several of these, it is a signal, not a personal failure.
Practical steps that help
Share the load
Make a list of every caregiving task, then ask relatives and friends to take specific ones: "Could you do the Thursday pharmacy run?" works better than "Let me know if you need anything."
Schedule real breaks
Regular, planned time off is more restorative than occasional emergency breaks. Respite care, a few hours a week or a weekend now and then, lets you rest knowing your loved one is in good hands.
Protect the basics
Keep your own medical appointments, try to sleep at regular times, and move your body a little every day, even a short walk.
Find people who understand
Caregiver support groups, in person or online, can be a relief. Your local Area Agency on Aging (Eldercare Locator: 1-800-677-1116) can point you to groups and services, and the National Family Caregiver Support Program offers counseling and training in many areas.
When to get urgent help
If you feel hopeless, think about harming yourself, or worry you might harm the person you care for, reach out now. Call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7.
You matter too
Caring for yourself is part of caring for your loved one. Accepting help is one of the most responsible decisions a caregiver can make.
Sources: National Institute on Aging, "Taking Care of Yourself: Tips for Caregivers"; Administration for Community Living, National Family Caregiver Support Program; 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
This article is general information for families and caregivers. It is not medical, legal or financial advice. For decisions about health, benefits or employment, speak with a qualified professional.
